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Stuck in a rut? Need some biased advice from a crabby old baby-boomer? Read regularly by thousands and loved by some, Dear Crabby answers questions weekly to life's challenges. Send him a note at DearCrabby@rochestermedia.com.

Dear Crabby, What Do You Think About the ‘Roseanne’ Reboot?

Dear Crabby, With President Trump visiting Michigan next week, it got me thinking about the Roseanne reboot and how people are saying it’s a pro-Trump show. What do you think? Thanks, Michele T. Vee Dear Michele T. Vee, Let me first start off by telling you what I think about reboots in general: “Pfffft!” And you can quote me on that. Yep. It’s official … Hollywood has run out of new ideas. Oh sure, in the beginning it was a cute idea to bring back some beloved shows from the ‘80s … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Should I Delete My Facebook Account?

Dear Crabby, I love staying connected to friends and family on my different social media channels. But I have to admit, this whole privacy breach with Cambridge Analytica and Facebook has me a little worried. Am I overreacting? Should I delete my Facebook account? Thanks! Paul P. Dear Paul P., Privacy is a funny thing. We all assume we have control over it, but in reality, we’ve been losing our grip on it a little bit at a time over the years. And so now we find ourselves having to … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What’s the Deal with Free-Range Parenting?

Dear Crabby, I was scrolling through the stories on my homepage recently and an article about free-range parenting caught my eye. Do states really need to pass laws for this sort of thing? Love to know what you think. Thanks, Henrietta C. Dear Henrietta C., You wouldn’t think we’d need to pass laws like this, but since common sense isn’t a flower that grows in everyone’s garden, here we are. For those of you living under a rock lately and think free-range actually has something … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Will that Chinese Space Station Land in Michigan?

Dear Crabby, Will that Chinese Space Station Land in Michigan? Sincerely,  Skyler Falls   Hello Skyler, As long as no one gets hurt - I hope so - what fun! Just a couple months ago we were all worried about another meteor falling on us - now, it's the Tiangong-1 Space Station, and certainly - as it would seem - Michigan is in the path of the uncontrolled vessel, which launched in 2011. But so is a lot of the world. And most of that path is water. The chances are slim, really … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do Minimalists have Junk Drawers?

Dear Crabby, I want to downsize my life and be more like a Minimalist, but how far do they go, do Minimalists have junk drawers? Thanks, Libby Small   Dear Ms. Small, I remember when being a minimalist meant creating art that was to-the-point, by reducing unnecessary detail; and it used simple materials and geometric shapes. It also described the idea of simple living, slow to change, slow growth in the economy, and a simple idea of faith - think Gandhi. More and more, … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What is Snapchat?

Dear Crabby, What is Snapchat? Sincerely, Pop Crackle   Dear Pop, When I first heard about Snapchat, I thought it was a form of communication where people would "snap" their fingers to talk back and forth. But that wasn't it. Then, I heard that young people were using it - so I thought it meant a quick conversation that didn't say much - I was getting closer. As it turns out, Snapchat is a social media application for use with smartphones. It's primary use is to share … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Why is the U.S. Postal Service the only ones allowed to use our Mailbox?

Dear Crabby, If we have to Buy and Install a Mailbox, why is the U.S. Postal Service the only ones allowed to use it? Sincerely, Mark Ed Tier   Dear Mark, I love this question. I've wondered the same thing. After all, you're right, we do all the hard work putting a mailbox up - we buy it - yet they own it. It's because our wonderful government loves the free market, except when it affects their profit margin. Only the U.S. Post Office should be allowed to send junk mail and make … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do we have to Stop using the Word ‘Man’?

Dear Crabby, I heard Purdue University put out New Writing Guidelines, do we have to stop using the word 'Man' now? Sincerely, Guy Buchman   Dear Guy, Man Alive! Have you really asked such a question? This is a funny topic to me - as a writer - because our language does evolve. And, Oh Boy! can this get someone's undies in a bunch. One common use of the word 'man' means mankind or humanity - really, it refers to all people. It comes from 'wermann' meaning man (wer) at the … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Are the Potholes Worse This Year?

Dear Crabby, I know we live in Michigan and potholes are to be expected, but is it just me or they extra bad this year? Thanks, Rod Rumble Dear Rod Rumble, It’s definitely not just you. In fact, I saw someone recently post one of those memes on Facebook that read, “In England they drive on the left side of the road. In Michigan they drive on what’s left of the road.” Ain’t that the truth! I see vehicles bobbing and weaving down a road all the time. Now an outsider might think the … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What’s the Deal with the Russian Olympic Uniforms?

Dear Crabby, Normally, I can’t tell the difference between a luge and a skeleton. But every four years, thanks to the Winter Olympics, I become an expert (like most Americans). But I admit to being a little confused when it comes to the Russian Olympic team this time around. I thought they weren’t allowed to compete and yet there they were at the PyeongChang Opening Ceremony last Friday. Do you know what’s going on? Thanks, Sam Speed   Dear Sam Speed, So, you noticed that … [Read more...]