About Dear Crabby

Stuck in a rut? Need some biased advice from a crabby old baby-boomer? Read regularly by thousands and loved by some, Dear Crabby answers questions weekly to life's challenges. Send him a note at DearCrabby@rochestermedia.com.

Dear Crabby, What’s Up with Jim Carrey?

Dear Crabby, What's Up with Jim Carrey? Sincerely, Fannie Funny   Ms. Funny, I'm sure you're referring to the craziness that flowed out his mouth during an interview at New York's Fashion Week, where actor/comedian Jim Carrey spoke about how there really wasn't a Jim Carrey and "there are just things happening ..." I had to look this up to answer your question, I don't watch that kind of TV. Anywho, I could tell you he's a comedian, and that should explain it. Or, I could … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Can a Terrible Two Toddler be Locked Up?

Dear Crabby, Do you think the jailer would lock up my "terrible two toddler," No really ... please? Sincerely Kelsey   Dear Kelsey, All parents go through this ... and back in my time, many parents "locked up" their kids. Of course, those were different times. I know a couple that used to lock their kid in his room - the lock was on the outside of the door - so he wouldn't bother them at night ... they claimed "the crying would eventually stop." That kid is now a teenager, … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Should I Let My Husband Retire?

Dear Crabby, My dear hubby is talking about retiring in the near future. Heck, I just got rid of the kids. I know he’s going to walk around strumming his guitar for two weeks, then be bored out of his mind. Any suggestions for me so I don’t lose mine? Signed, not ready for a full time husband   Dear Not Ready, This is a common issue that many wives have. The best thing you can do is not let him retire. That may sound mean, but it may just save your marriage. Unless he is … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do I Really Need a New Driver’s License?

Dear Crabby, I heard a rumor floating around that Michigan residents will need a new driver’s license to board planes, go into federal buildings, and such. Is this really necessary? Thanks! June Sample Dear June Sample, Is it necessary? Eh. I think that could be open for debate, but people need to stop acting like the idea has come out of the blue. This hullabaloo all started back in 2005 when Congress passed the REAL ID Act. It was put into action based on the recommendation from … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do I Need My Gallbladder?

Dear Crabby, After several bouts of pain, my doc says it’s finally time for my gallbladder to come out. What do you think? Should I have the surgery or do you think my doc is just trying to get money from my insurance? Thanks! Gal Stone Dear Gal Stone, You say you’ve had several bouts of pain? Lord knows I’ve never been accused of being a smart man (that’s why I married Mrs. Crabby), but how many more bouts of pain will it take before you’re convinced your gallbladder needs to hit … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do I Have to Dress Up to Enjoy the Michigan Renaissance Festival?

Dear Crabby, Why do you think so many adults love to dress up in costumes and attend the Michigan Renaissance Festival? Thanks! Curious Caryn Dear Curious Caryn, You ask an interesting question. I mean, why do folks go to Comic-Con and dress like their favorite super heroes? Or why do mostly grown men take part in Civil War reenactments when it won’t change the outcome? I think part of it is, we all have a special hobby that we love. And when we find others who are just as … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Have You Heard of ‘No Ring, No Bring?’

Dear Crabby, I have been dating a great guy and we’re finally at that stage where we’re meeting each other’s families. My cousin is getting married later this month, and I assumed that would be the perfect opportunity for him to meet my family. That is until I found out my cousin (the bride) has instituted a ‘No ring, no bring’ policy. So, since I don’t have a ring on my finger, I can’t bring him as my date. Do you think that’s fair? Thanks! Mary Belle Dear Mary Belle, Well, I think … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What Do You Think About Year-Round Schooling?

Dear Crabby, What do you think about year-round school? It looks like they are moving towards that where I live. Thanks! Grams Dear Grams, I think I just heard the sounds of children crying and parents cheering at the thought of this idea. Before I give my esteemed opinion, I think I should debunk the notion anyone reading this might have that year-round school means kids are in school for 365 days a year. While I’m sure that would be preferable for some (cough, the parents, cough), … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What’s the Best Way to Watch a Solar Eclipse?

Dear Crabby, Have you ever seen a solar eclipse and what is the best way to view one? Will you be traveling to a better viewing area for next month's total solar eclipse? Wonderingly, LaceK Dear LaceK, It's been 99 years since the last coast-to-coast total solar eclipse. I wasn't around yet for that one, but I've seen a few eclipses - solar and lunar - right here in Michigan. Now, I understand this one, coming on August 21 at about 1:00 p.m., will be around 80% full coverage in our … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What Sort of Advice do You Give?

Dear Crabby, I've Heard through the Rochester Grapevine that You give Advice, What Sort of Advice do You Give? Thanks, Mr. Curious Dear Mr. Curious, Today, I give all kinds of advice to all kinds of people - mostly to those who never asked for it - however, once per week I take a question from someone like you. My answers will change your life ... sometimes I'm told, for the better. Here at Rochester Media my minions, um, I mean co-workers riffle through stacks (I imagine) to find the … [Read more...]