About Dear Crabby

Stuck in a rut? Need some biased advice from a crabby old baby-boomer? Read regularly by thousands and loved by some, Dear Crabby answers questions weekly to life's challenges. Send him a note at DearCrabby@rochestermedia.com.

Dear Crabby, What Sort of Advice do You Give?

Dear Crabby, I've Heard through the Rochester Grapevine that You give Advice, What Sort of Advice do You Give? Thanks, Mr. Curious Dear Mr. Curious, Today, I give all kinds of advice to all kinds of people - mostly to those who never asked for it - however, once per week I take a question from someone like you. My answers will change your life ... sometimes I'm told, for the better. Here at Rochester Media my minions, um, I mean co-workers riffle through stacks (I imagine) to find the … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Why is Rochester Hills Changing Our Trash Pick Up Service?

Dear Crabby, I Like My Garbage and Recycling Company, Why is Rochester Hills Changing Our Trash Pick Up Service? Sincerely, Stinky McCann Dear Stinky, If you like your garbage man, you can keep your garbage man ... but you can't. As it was in 2009 when Mayor Bryan Barnett and city council decided we'd all be better off with a single hauler system. Instead of five different companies with three trucks each - trash, recycling, and yard waste - totaling 15 trucks per week in most … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do Teens Still Get Summer Jobs?

Dear Crabby, Do Teens Still Get Summer Jobs? Sincerely, Sonny August Dear Sonny, Some do, some don't. But I know where you're coming from, teens these days don't seem to take summer jobs like they used to. I had no choice in the matter when I was a teen. My father put me to work with all kinds of outdoor chores and inside repairs. We didn't have cell phones or color TV to distract us back then. We enjoyed the time with family - to a point - that we just didn't get during the school … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, How Do You Define ‘Up North?’

Dear Crabby, Recently, a coworker and I were talking about going ‘Up North’ for the weekend. What surprised us is we both have different definitions of where that is. What say you? Where is ‘Up North?’ Thanks! Nathan Nord Dear Nathan Nord, This does seem to be a question which Michiganders definitely have strong opinions about. My guess is if you asked da Yoopers, they’d say only the Upper Peninsula can rightfully be considered ‘Up North.’ I know as a kid, any time we crossed over … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Should Kids Be Expected to Give Hugs?

Dear Crabby, We got together with extended family for Father’s Day last Sunday and had a great time… until it was time to leave. As we were saying goodbye an uncle we rarely see wanted my young daughter to give him a hug and got upset when she politely refused. Should I force my kids to give hugs and kisses to family members? Thanks, Tammy Toque Dear Tammy Toque, I totally understand where you’re coming from. Growing up, I had a great aunt that smelled like peppermint and Bengay. … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, How Do I Keep My Kids Busy During the Summer?

Dear Crabby, HELP! School is out this week and I am dreading the chorus of ‘Mom. I’m boooored,’ I’m sure to hear on the first day of summer vacation. Any thoughts of how I can keep my kids occupied over the next few months? Thanks! Wendy Wornout Dear Wendy Wornout, I’m sure after nine months with your kids (and thousands of others) any teacher reading your question is laughing while printing out a boarding pass for their upcoming Caribbean cruise. Of course, back in my day the … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Have You Ever Tried an Escape Room?

Dear Crabby, Have you heard about Escape Rooms? Apparently, they’re all the rage right now and I’m just wondering if I should try one. Thanks! Max Exodus Dear Max Exodus, Have I ever wanted to escape a room before? You betchya! Especially when it involves Mrs. Crabby’s side of the family. They’re nice enough, but one can only sing ‘The 12 Days of Christmas’ so many times before running naked through a blizzard sounds more preferable. But now that I read your question again, it looks … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What is the Deal with all the Remakes?

Dear Crabby, Last week I caught the Dirty Dancing remake on TV. What. A. Mess! Why does Hollywood keep trying to remake our favorite movies? Personally, I think they should just leave well enough alone. Thanks, Rhonda Repeat Dear Rhonda Repeat, I think I have the answer: because Hollywood is lazy. Haha. Well, that’s part of it. But mostly I think it’s because the studios are looking for a sure thing. They know they already have an audience, so they can tie-in marketing, … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do you Fly the Flag on Memorial Day?

Dear Crabby, Do you Fly the Flag on Memorial Day? Sincerely, Starr White Dear Starr, Of course I do and you better do the same! You know, as proud Americans, the Crabby Family displays the flag everyday. To avoid the sunrise to sunset rule, we illuminate our US Flag at night, so it flies around the clock. But if you're a kind of part-time patriot, then you should honor our country by showing the Stars and Stripes on all National Holidays, as well as Inauguration Day, Lincoln's … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What is Fake News?

Dear Crabby, What is Fake News? Sincerely, Historia Falsum   Dear Historia, Quite frankly, everything you read could fall under the realm of "fake news" because of the slant most news outlets take these days. Ever since Gutenberg's printing press started to circulate publications in 1439, false news went with it. We called it "yellow journalism" in my early days, which is when a sketchy newspaper would use colorful front pages, over-the-top headlines, and lavish use of pictures … [Read more...]