About Dear Crabby

Stuck in a rut? Need some biased advice from a crabby old baby-boomer? Read regularly by thousands and loved by some, Dear Crabby answers questions weekly to life's challenges. Send him a note at DearCrabby@rochestermedia.com.

Dear Crabby, What is a Kraken?

Dear Crabby, One of the things I’ve really been missing during this pandemic is live, televised sporting events, so I was thrilled when hockey started up again. And then Seattle announced its new team name for the 2021–22 season – Kraken. Is this a joke? It has to be one of the silliest names in sports. What do you think? Thanks! B. Barnburner Dear B. Barnburner, Personally, I’m more of a baseball man and so far the Detroit Tigers aren’t doing half bad. Maybe we need to have a … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Why Do Some People Wear a Face Mask While Driving?

Dear Crabby, I see people in cars, mostly solo drivers, wearing masks, why do some people wear a face mask while driving? Sincerely, Minnie Van Driver   Dear Minnie, I guess some folks just want to be as safe as possible ... or that after 160 executive orders from the governor that ranged from don't wear a mask, to donate masks to those that need them, and from saying you should wear homemade mask when in public, to wear one or else! Some people have resorted to wearing them all the … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, How Often Should I Cut the Grass?

Dear Crabby, How Often Should I Cut the Grass? Sincerely, Mo Yardly   Dear Mo, My gut cut instinct is to do it as little as possible - why waste gas and time when you don't have to. You should spend your time and your gas money for something more enjoyable - unless you enjoy mowing the lawn. However, perhaps your question warrants a deeper look into the science of grass cutting. The experts tell us that you should cut once per week - I'm sure these "experts" are the same … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do you go to Estate Sales?

Dear Crabby, Do you go to Estate Sales? Sincerely, Jerry Junkman   Hello Jerry, There does seem to be many, many more estate sales this year than ever before - the signs are everywhere! What I don't see are garage sales signs, not many anyway, but I have a couple ideas about why that is. First of all, with the pandemic still going on, I feel some people are skipping the garage sale adventure of hosting a sale by not having strangers rummaging around their garage and … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What Will Happen to all the Movies that were to be Released in 2020?

Dear Crabby, What Will Happen to all the Movies that were to be Released in 2020? Sincerely, Cindy Ma   Hello Cindy, Good question. As 2020 comes more into focus, we'll remember it as the year we want to forget. Without the cinema-hype associated with a film's release, many will go direct to DVD or online streaming services. And with that, there are sure to be some movies destined for the bargain shelves of stores that somehow stay in business. Others will survive the pandemic for a … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Why do we shoot off Fireworks on July Fourth?

Dear Crabby, Why do we shoot off Fireworks on July Fourth? Sincerely, Baozhu   Dear Bauzhu, To celebrate our Independence from Britain, of course. But why fireworks to celebrate such a landmark world event? Well, as with many things these days, it all started in China. The Han Dynasty would sizzle bamboo stalks until they exploded - that was around 200 B.C. Then, a few hundred years later, the Chinese started filling the bamboo stalks with gunpowder and adding metal shavings to … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, What’s All the Hype About ‘Hamilton?’

Dear Crabby, Lately, my newsfeed has been filled with people geeking out over Hamilton the musical. Since all the theatres are closed, I can’t figure out what all the fuss is about. Do you have any clue? Thanks, K. George Will Dear K. George Will, I know we’ve all been sheltering at home these past few months, but it sounds like you’ve also been sheltering under a rock. First, a little background for those of you who slept through American history. Good old Alexander Hamilton is … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Do You Know the History Behind Father’s Day?

Dear Crabby, I know the history of how and why we celebrate Mother’s Day, but is there a story behind Father’s Day? While moms are very important, I sometimes feel we dads get overlooked. Thanks! Luke S. Dear Luke S., Great question! As you said, moms are very, very important people (I gotta stay on Mrs. Crabby’s good side). But as you also said, sometimes we dad get overlooked. I have often felt like stores spend big bucks for their Mother’s Day advertising and then treat Father’s … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, How Can I Entertain My Kids This Summer?

Dear Crabby, Every summer I brace for the chorus of “We’re bored!” from my children. But since they’ve been home the last three months with online schooling, I feel extra pressure this year. Do you have any suggestions? Thanks, Serenity Now Dear Serenity Now, I have been waiting for someone to ask me this question. It seems like I get a frazzled parent such as yourself every two years or so wondering what can be done to keep the kids from becoming one with the sofa. In the past, … [Read more...]

Dear Crabby, Where Can I Go Swimming?

Dear Crabby, Not to be too overdramatic, but is it safe to go swimming this summer? And if so, where? Thanks! Amy Island Dear Amy Island, Duunnn dunnn... duuuunnnn duun. Sorry. As soon as I read your question all I could think of was the movie Jaws. If anyone reading this doesn’t know what I’m talking about, you may not be the target audience for my column. Or perhaps you’ve led a sheltered life. Either way, I suggest you go ahead and watch it. Better yet, read the book by Peter … [Read more...]